Today I was driving around running errands and feeling like a grown-up when on the radio they mentioned a review for the upcoming movie The Perks of Being a Wallflower. I knew this movie was coming out eventually but it still hit me right in the gut. It made me realize why I feel so reluctant to grow up and that is because it seems like it is such an amazing time to be a teen right now.
When I was a teenager I was a bit of an outsider. I never thought I was that drastically different from others but I certainly had my fair share of being picked on for how I dressed. It sucked but I also didn't want to change, either. I wanted to wear what I wanted to wear and be who I wanted to be. And then The Perks of Being a Wallflower was published and when I first read it it felt like my perfect little secret. I read it over and over again and only shared it with my closest friends. We bonded over being "outcasts" and found solace in the characters that make up this book. I underlined quotes, my friend Clint made cds for us that featured all the music from the book. My friend Michelle made a huge banner and we hung it up in the little movie theater where we all worked and we had a private party that celebrated this book but also celebrated ourselves for being who we were/are. It was a perfect.
Rookie and Tavi Gevinson's blog. The things she and her crew are doing is so amazing for girls. I know it sounds hokey to say but I feel like we are truly living in a time where you can be anyone you want to be and it's ok. Of course I'm saying this as a 29 year old who is no longer in high school. I'm sure there are still the usual cast of characters making life miserable for certain people. But I think what Tavi and crew are doing with Rookie is letting girls know they are not alone.
I originally sat down to bemoan how great teenagers have it today but I know that the grass is always greener. And the more I think of that Perks of Being a Wallflower party my friends had the more I remember other great moments and I know that my teen years were fine. Even if I had all the perks teens have today I probably wouldn't have been any cooler or any more motivated. I would have still watched too much TV and written angsty poems about boys.
I am absolutely happy this is all happening. It makes me excited to raise kids and teach them these great things and encourage them to be themselves. I may have been a lot to handle for my parents sometimes but they let me be myself and I appreciate that. I can't wait to do that for my own kids. I just hope my future daughter doesn't mind being named Maybelline.